Finding the Right Words at a Funeral with Flowers

Wreaths and floral arrangements are typically ordered by close relatives and are placed around the coffin or open grave. When the coffin or urn is lowered into the grave, either during or after the funeral service, it's customary to toss individual flowers or small bouquets into the grave. In some regions, bowls of flower heads are placed by the grave, and each person who approaches throws a few onto the coffin.

During funeral ceremonies and burials, all flowers and blooms that are aesthetically pleasing are permitted. While red roses are generally reserved for the deceased's partner, otherwise, all kinds of plants can be used. Flowers symbolize appreciation for the deceased, as well as comfort and sympathy for other bereaved individuals.

A personal floral arrangement can be an expression of how much the deceased's interests and preferences were honored. It can convey love, respect, and longing. There are no inappropriate flowers here. Sunflowers, roses, or lilies—whatever brought joy to the deceased during their lifetime is fitting for this occasion. Even favorite flowers from the garden can be used and assembled into a homemade arrangement.

Traditionally, the rose is a popular choice for this occasion, regarded as the queen of flowers. It expresses love and affection and can be chosen in a single color or in a mixed bouquet. The lily, preferably in white, is very frequently seen as a funeral flower. The carnation is also very popular; since it generally lasts a long time, it ensures that wreaths and arrangements remain vibrant for an extended period.

Other popular funeral flowers include forget-me-nots and the calla lily. Forget-me-nots are particularly recommended for delicate arrangements.

The arrangement placed on the coffin is typically chosen by the deceased's partner or closest relative, usually their children. A popular choice for this is an arrangement of palm fronds and flowers.